i haven't read the last half page of posts here....
you can run Apache on any Windows distro but it needs to be XP, NT or 2000 to automatically start itself when you start the computer.
the configuration file is apache/conf/httpd.conf
to start the program as a non service, go to dos and go to the apache directory. i think the command is 'apache -k start' or 'apache start' or something like that. i only ever ran it as a service and for Linux.