And the best thing to do is to not do it under your home directories. Create a common directory that is not under your home directories that you can both place files in.
For example. Create a group called "lovers" that both you and your better half are members of. Create a directory called /home/lovers then:
# chown root:shared /home/lovers
# chmod 770 /home/lovers
# chmod g+s /home/lovers
(you'll need to log off then back on in order for the system to recognize you are a member of the new group). If you want you can put a link to that directory in each of your home directories. It's best to keep your home directories exclusive to each ID, no matter how much you are head over heals for the other user.
Or if you must, you could just add your user ID to her group and her userID to your group. Your primary group is usually named the same as your logon name. And again, after adding the IDs to the groups you will need to log off and back on.
[ January 14, 2003: Message edited by: void main ]